STOKER FAMILY

This blog is a little different from my others, because I am going to discuss my feelings on a certain subject.


To start, I will begin with the fact that I was a very unhappy person in my early years. I was usually upset or angry about something or other. But I am happy to say that in my later years I have discovered the value of not sweating the small stuff. I have realized that if I dwell over the little things then I am making myself unhappy and that if I don't let them go then I will not have the strength to deal with the really difficult stuff that comes along.


I have come to a very important understanding with myself. I am the only one who can determine if I am to be happy or not. Regardless of what others say or do and those hard circumstances that may come along. Another individual my say or do something that offends me or hurts my feelings, but I am the one who will decide how much it will effect me. Will I dwell on it and dissect it piece by piece until I go crazy and end up disliking the person. Or will I let it go and choose to focus on something good that has happened that day or something good about the person who offended me.



I really do understand that there are going to be situations in life that can definitely make me unhappy, but again I have a choice. Stop everything and fixate on things that are outside my control and go nuts, or change the things that are in my control, mainly myself. I will always try to remember that getting upset and throwing that anger at everyone around me, will not change or help the situation. It will almost for certain make it worse, so why do it.


You may be wondering why I am writing this. Well these thoughts have come to me recently due to watching others around me making themselves miserable and bringing others around them down by focusing so much on things that really mean nothing in the big scheme of things. These things will pass, but these people will have left a bad taste the in air for a long time to come, by their words and actions.


I am just hoping that I can always choose for myself to be happy.